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Is The Polygamist really about polygamy - or is it a deeper story about cheating, betrayal, manipulation, and power?
In this episode, Anya and Dr. Tiamo unpack the viral series that has sparked conversations across Africa and the diaspora. They explore why stories of love, betrayal, and complicated relationships resonate so deeply, and examine the difference between consensual non-monogamy and relationships built on secrecy, dishonesty, and broken trust.
The conversation explores why accomplished women like Joyce may remain in unhealthy relationships, looking at the impact of identity being tied to long-term relationships, the pressure of reputation and public image, upbringing, and societal messages that can make women feel their worth is connected to marriage and being chosen. They also discuss relationship dynamics and dating pressures, including conversations around the perceived scarcity of successful partners and how that can influence what some people are willing to tolerate.
Anya and Dr. Tiamo examine how families and communities can sometimes enable double lives by protecting reputations rather than encouraging accountability. They discuss why men must take responsibility for their choices - whether that means being honest about what they want or leaving a relationship - rather than using deception or power to cause harm.
The episode explores the warning signs of unhealthy relationships, including gaslighting, emotional unsafety, lack of empathy, and manipulation. They also discuss what healthy love requires: consent, respect, commitment, care, and mutual effort beyond grand gestures.
Finally, they challenge listeners to celebrate women not only for their relationships, but also for their courage to leave situations that cause suffering and for the achievements, identities, and dreams they build beyond partnership.
Whether you've watched The Polygamist or not, this episode goes beyond the drama to examine love, accountability and the relationship patterns we choose to normalize.

What does it mean to fight for others… without losing yourself?
As part of Mental Health Awareness Month, we’re proud to share this deeply honest conversation with Tamanda Namangale, pre-law student, community organizer, and writer.
From growing up as a Malawian military kid - shaped by movement, discipline, and community to becoming a young leader in politics and immigrant advocacy, Tamanda’s journey is one of purpose. An early political awakening, sparked by her father’s public dismissal from the military, set her on a path that led to global education opportunities and a life of impact in the U.S.
But behind the achievements is a more complex truth.
Tamanda opens up about navigating identity across cultures, the assumptions tied to her surname and Blackness, and being targeted in college - including having her visa revoked twice. She shares the mental health toll of it all - depression, anxiety, and substance use - while appearing “high-functioning” on the outside.
Through therapy, community, and intentional self-work, she’s learning to advocate sustainably - grounded in boundaries, connection, and small, everyday joys. Her perspective challenges the idea of “Black excellence,” reframing it as self-knowledge, wellness, and the courage to live fully.
A powerful reminder that you can do meaningful work without sacrificing your wellbeing and that reclaiming joy is part of the work.
If you’ve ever felt the weight of expectations while trying to make a difference, this one’s for you.
Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of addiction, depression, and anxiety. If this episode brought anything up for you, you’re not alone. Support is available:
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) – Free, confidential, 24/7 treatment referral and information
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call or text 988 for immediate mental health support
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) – Peer support groups for those struggling with alcohol use
Narcotics Anonymous (NA) – Support for people recovering from drug addiction
SMART Recovery – Self-management and recovery training programs (non-12 step)
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
If you’re outside the U.S., local health services and community organizations can provide similar support.

What does Black excellence look like when rooted in an African perspective?
In this episode, Anya and Dr Tiamo sit down with Joe Ekue Kinvi, a Togolese-born, Pan-African entrepreneur building the future of investment and innovation across Africa and its diaspora.
From arriving in Ireland at 15 without speaking English, to leading roles at Stripe and Paystack, to now founding Borderless, Joe’s journey is shaped by resilience, identity, and a deep commitment to shifting Africa’s narrative. 
We unpack the realities behind identity and ambition, navigating name-based bias, value creation, and carrying the weight (and motivation) of sacrifice, family, and expectation.
Joe shares how his experiences shaped his mission to shift Africa’s narrative  - from one of limitation to one of opportunity - through ownership, investment, and collective economic power.
From co-founding the African Professional Network Ireland to leading roles at Stripe and Paystack, to now building Borderless, he’s focused on one thing: creating systems that allow Africans and the diaspora to build, invest, and thrive together.
Connect with Joe
Twitter - [@joekinvi](https://twitter.com/joekinvi?lang=en)
 
Linkedin - [@joekinvi](https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joekinvi)
 
Instagram - [@joekinvi](https://instagram.com/joekinvi)
 
Email - joe@onborderless.com
 
Newsletter - https://joekinvi.beehiiv.com/
 

In this episode, Anya and Dr. Tiamo sit down with Pendo O’Donohoe, Director of Sales for EMEA Emerging Markets Google Ireland, to explore resilience, leadership, and what it means to navigate identity in spaces where representation is limited.
With nearly 20 years at Google and a career spanning continents, Pendo reflects on the experiences that shaped her journey; from growing up in a Zimbabwean family shaped by political exile and entrepreneurial resilience, to becoming Google Ireland’s first Black employee and its only Black woman director.
She shares what it means to lead while holding multiple identities: an African in the diaspora, a senior tech leader, and a mother raising a mixed-race son in Ireland.
The conversation also explores the realities many Black women face in professional environments, how direct leadership styles can be misinterpreted, the subtle biases that show up in the workplace, and the balance between adapting and staying authentic.
In one of the most personal moments of the episode, Pendo reflects on returning to work after the sudden loss of her sister, and how that experience reshaped her understanding of grief, community, and extending grace to yourself.
Throughout the conversation, Pendo reframes the idea of Black excellence: not as perfection, but as being the best version of yourself, living your values, and helping others rise along the way.
In this episode, we discuss:
• Redefining Black excellence beyond perfection• Navigating leadership as a Black woman in tech• Balancing identity, motherhood, and career• Mentorship, representation, and building community• Grief, resilience, and the importance of mental health
 

In this episode, we sit down with Caroline, a quantitative UX researcher, global citizen, and storyteller at heart.
Caroline takes us through her journey from an early love of math to a career rooted in using data to influence business strategy and tell stories at Google. Having lived and worked across Kenya, the United States, Ireland, and Switzerland, she reflects on how constant movement shaped her identity, worldview, and relationship to belonging.
Beyond her professional path, Caroline opens up about navigating a breast cancer diagnosis and how it fundamentally shifted the way she thinks about ambition, work, and what it means to truly live. We talk candidly about the pressures tied to “Black Excellence,” the cost of constantly striving, and the power of choosing authenticity and well-being over performance. As Caroline puts it, Black excellence is about creating spaces where Black people don’t need to be exceptional to be worthy.
This conversation is a reminder that resilience doesn’t always look like pushing harder; sometimes it looks like slowing down, setting boundaries, and redefining success on your own terms. An honest, grounding episode for anyone navigating life, career, and identity while learning how to choose themselves.
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In this Season 2 episode of Black Excellence, Unfiltered, hosts Dr. Tiamo and Anya sit down with serial entrepreneur, investor, and fashion-tech pioneer Eddie Mullon for a deeply reflective conversation on ambition, identity, and balance.
Born in Malawi and raised in the UK, Eddie shares how his early experiences; including navigating racism and displacement; shaped his drive to build, innovate, and believe in himself. That journey ultimately led him to found Fashion GPS, a groundbreaking platform that transformed the fashion industry and later evolved into Launchmetrics, a multi million dollar venture.
Beyond the success, Eddie opens up about the personal cost of entrepreneurship and the lessons he learned the hard way about burnout, self-care, and redefining success. Now focused on mentoring, philanthropy, and purpose-driven work, Eddie explores how business, mindfulness, and human connection can coexist and why wellbeing is just as important as building the next big thing.
This episode is an honest and inspiring exploration of resilience, reinvention, and what it really means to build a life that’s both impactful and balanced.
 

Season One was a ride - and yes, we were absolutely building the plane while flying it.
In this season finale of Black Excellence Unfiltered, Dr Tiamo and Anya sit down to unpack the lessons, surprises, and behind-the-scenes chaos that shaped their very first season. From the podcast’s humble origins to the unfiltered stories that moved them (and you), the hosts reflect on how Black excellence showed up in expected and wildly unexpected ways.
They revisit the moments that made them laugh, cry, rethink everything, and hit pause. They talk about the immigration stories that shook them, the guests who changed the room, and the recurring themes of resilience, intentionality, identity, and community connection that kept surfacing episode after episode.
You’ll hear:✨ The feedback that stopped them in their tracks✨ The stories they never saw coming✨ The logistical chaos (time zones! audio fails! back-alley recording sessions!) that somehow made the journey richer✨ The impact listeners shared from Lilongwe to New York✨ What Season 2 is about to unlock
This episode is a love letter to everyone who joined the journey and a promise that we’re still building. If Season One was about finding their voice, Season Two is about amplifying it.
Tap in, reflect with us, and get ready. The best is yet to come.

In this bonus episode, Dr. Tiamo sits down with Anya Mhone, global business leader, creator, and co-host of @beupodcast, for a raw and deeply moving conversation about resilience, identity, and the art of healing.
From her roots in Malawi and the loss of her parents at a young age, to her upbringing in the UK, life in New York, and her decade-plus journey at Google; Anya opens up about the experiences that shaped her empathy, ambition, and strength. She reflects on navigating bias and belonging in corporate spaces, the quiet courage it takes to rebuild, and the intentional joy that anchors her through life’s transitions.
Anya believes that Black excellence is about embracing joy as a form of rebellion, and that our brokenness, like in the Japanese art of Kintsugi, adds to our beauty, rather than diminishing it. This candid conversation explores what it means to hold power and tenderness in equal measure, to lead with authenticity, and to find purpose in imperfection.
Join us for a conversation that reminds us that transformation isn’t about being flawless, it’s about finding gold in life’s cracks.

In this episode of Black Excellence Unfiltered, hosts Anya and Dr. Tiamo sit down with Nthanda Manduwi (@nthandamanduwi), a Malawian storyteller, techie, entrepreneur, and fearless advocate for youth empowerment and mental health.
Nthanda’s journey from Malawi to New York is anything but ordinary. Along the way, she’s led digital innovation hubs that have impacted over half a million young Africans, shaped global initiatives at the United Nations and Microsoft, and authored books that continue to empower women and youth to embrace their own brilliance.
But behind the accolades lies a story of resilience, courage, and purpose. In this conversation, Nthanda shares what it really takes to navigate professional spaces as a Black woman, how cultural bias has shaped her journey, and why storytelling remains one of the most powerful tools for change. She also reveals the practices of community and self-care that keep her grounded while holding such a bold vision for Africa’s future.
This is more than just a career story, it’s a call to action. Whether you’re an immigrant forging your own path, a creative searching for your voice, or simply someone who believes in the power of possibility, Nthanda’s words will challenge you to step into your highest self and, as she says, “set the world on fire.”
✨ Special Giveaway ✨ Nthanda is giving away 50 free copies of her book "Traversing my terrible twenties" to 50 lucky listeners! To enter:
a) Leave a comment on any of our social media or podcast pages b) Share Nthanda’s episode on your social media and tag us c) Subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform
The first 50 people we see will receive a copy! All book proceeds will be donated to Ntha Foundation.
📚 Nthanda’s Books
By the End of Your Teens (2018)
Traversing Your Terrible Twenties (2025)
Upcoming titles: Feminine Silence (2025), Lady at the Helm (2026), Lessons (2026), Balance (2027), and more.
🌍 Organizations & Programs
Ntha Foundation – U.S. 501(c)(3) non-profit empowering youth across Africa
Kwathu Kollective – Youth innovation hub driving digital transformation
Bien Corporation Africa – Creative & media company channeling Africa’s digital economy
Q2 Corporation – Bridging AgTech and Gaming to build Africa’s future
📩 Connect with Nthanda
Email: nthanda@q2corporation.com | nthanda@biencorp.com | nthanda@kwathu.org | nthanda@nthafoundation.org
 

In this episode of Black Excellence Unfiltered, co-hosts Anya and Dr. Tiamo sit down with Felix, a Software Engineer at Bloomberg, marathon runner, and coffee and beer enthusiast originally from Malawi.
Felix’s journey has taken him from Malawi the “warm heart of Africa” to the US where he contributed to genetics research for medicine discovery and later worked in California engineering electric vehicle platforms. He now lives in London, building reliable systems that keep global finance running. Beyond work, he is chasing the world’s six major marathons, with London already checked off, and diving deep into the science behind life’s simple pleasures, from a well-brewed cup of coffee to a perfectly poured draft beer.
In this conversation, Felix opens up about cultural differences, racial anxiety, and the pressure of living up to the term Black Excellence. He reflects on caring for his aging father while navigating work demands and visa challenges, and highlights the importance of vulnerability, self-care, and strong social support systems. As he shares, “It’s in the most vulnerable moment that you can actually find strength,” a philosophy that has guided him through both personal and professional challenges.
On Black Excellence, Felix sees it as both a celebration and a contradiction: a pride in truth and achievements, yet a reminder of the unfair weight of needing to be “twice as good” just to be seen. For him, it is a dialogue still unfolding, much like the yeast in beer, the intricacies of a coffee bean, or the races he runs: complex, personal, and worth every step.
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